My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years. We are very happy together, despite the occasional fight about delicious confections. However, China is about to fuck everything up. Michael does ceramics, and it seems as though China is presenting the best opportunity for him to further his education and gain experience so he can achieve the ceramics fame that he has always dreamed of. This fantastic opportunity clearly breaks my heart a little. He feels as though the simple solution is for me to pack up and move to Jingdeshen. I work a 9-5 office job to which I’m not at all attached. I like to write, and I figure I can do that anywhere, so I’m not leaving behind any of dreams to help chase his. I would hate to leave Kristina. If he were moving to some amazing European country, this would not be a question. I just don’t know how I feel about China. So, what do I do?
well first off, long distance relationships for me are out of the question, i’ve cheated on every dude, well i think there was only one, and he sure as hell cheated on me too. you should read my friend liane‘s blog, she lives in shanghai, has for a long time and has a successful long distance relationship somehow
so basically you have to follow him there, like scarlett johansson in lost in translation, except china not japan
your number one thing is money, you need it, you need to have a job, because every single fight you have will be centered around it if you don’t have it, combined with a new environment and minimal friends to bounce frustrations off of, that is an explosive combo and your relationship will suffer for it. as long as you both have money, then you’re cool, all the other things you guys normally bicker about will still be present.
if you are viewing this as a temporary thing to do or are at the stage where you need to find yourself, do you think china is the right place for it? i mean, it’s a natural thing to assume that a big move will fix whatever we don’t like about our current situation. but if it’s love and you really aren’t giving anything up dream-wise, then why not eh? you can always come home, the downfall is there’s a possibility of coming home alone. give it a try, if it fails, you can say to your boyfriend you tried his thing now it’s his turn to try your thing, if you plan to stick together come what may, and really, how long does it take to learn ceramics anyway?
love aunt raymi
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BARF!For Mr Deaves the sexual relationship was “absolutely fantastic”. yeah, thanks for the mental picture. well at least they have senses of humour, i mean, you’d have to, by naming your incest spawn a name that rhymes with incest. guys shh be quiet here comes incest celeste!
Oooh, if you take those blue panty shots into photoshop, do the magic wand to select just the blue part and click Auto-Levels (Makes see-through clothing mostly disappear) you get a better view of Raymi’s Bush. I highly recommend it. G. I. Poo | Edit comment Delete comment | Email | Homepage | 04.16.08 – 7:05 pm | #
remind me to make up some jokes about people who run/jog and try to hold conversations at the same time and how much they make me laugh, ok well i guess no need to remind me now.
yesterday was an interesting hair day. mark holmes looked at me long and hard cos he thought i was feist. we have the same tights (i got them first) hi feist!
email me (raymitheminx@gmail.com) questions or leave them in my comments, lets start an advice column the good old fashioned raymi style. be prepared to NOT be coddled, possibly torn to shreds, but most importantly, your life’s ailments sorted by your dear aunt raymi.
it’s true, i’m an aunt, it’s legitimate.
you can be anonymous too if you want.
i’m also happy to report that my big hairy bush makes it into my dreams!
As you know, I’m getting married next month. They say it’s bad luck for the groom to see the bride in her wedding dress before the big day. But what about seeing the groom in his suit? I bought a new suit for the occasion and Deborah wants me to try it on for her. What will happen if I do? Jamie
um, nothing? if you were playing dress up and trying on your outfits at the same time you could close your eyes so you don’t see her dress, but that likely won’t happen. there is no superstition in place for dudes and weddings, i don’t think, i think you’re good.
30% off on top of an exchange i did so practically free, well, not really, but there’s no way i’da paid full price for these.
there are so many ugly shoes at the bay, ugly expensive things, i went to the bathing suit section and wooooooof! after walking through the perfume dept. my eyes completely teared up and my nose started running, just brutal, how do you expect people to shop like that? and no don’t give me perfume drenched cards either. so in a daze and a gift card to burn i wandered around the shoes completely aghast at the surrounding fugly, spotted these birks and got the hell out of there asap.
to the psycho in my comments right now can you kindly leave me alone, you’re scaring me. this is the last time you will be acknowledged, i am not publishing ANYTHING you say, and everything you say is WRONG and totally contradicting, GET.A.LIFE!
refer to this post regarding how much you are certain i spend fil’s money.
Hey Raymi,
I am emailing for from work (I have a job with the prov of Manitoba) and I wanted to let you know that I tried to check your blog just now and it’s been blocked due to “highly explicit and mature content”. I seriously laughed out loud it’s not like you are flashing your vag around or anything I guess the govt here is more uptight than I thought.
Oh also you have been looking super good lately I dig how skinny you are try not to let assholes get you down, k? I have had the biggest asshole of them all (the Ex) harassing my & my fam nonstop since I got back but I am dealing and I hope you are too. I guess it’s dif when it’s random strangers being douches but I know a ton of people here who read your blog religiously and think you are the shit so even out here in prarietown you are cool.
Oh also I took your advice and have been partying it up with the best people in this city and have a new guy kinda hanging around so things seem to be looking up believe it or not I am happier here than in Hamilton who knew?
I hope you enjoyed your trip, I’ve never been to the states TO is pretty much the only place I’ve ever gone so it was kinda like I had an adventure through you thanks for sharing it with all of us losers stuck in 9-5 jobs. Are you going anywhere else anytime soon? Also how do you manage to handle not having a 9-5 like the rest of the world? I was unemployed for a while and went apeshit batty how do you do it? I am impressed you must stay super busy on the comp all day or something or maybe you are made of tougher stuff than the rest of us?
Also it’s been colder in Ontario than here in Winterpeg wtf is going on there? Weird.
