nxne diaries continued

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here’s one of a billion videos i took of fucked up. i was scared for the girls in that crowd but they kept on going for it, being smushed and buried and trampled by sweaty punk loving dudes screaming their faces off. it was a sea of arms and legs and camera flashes, the crowd was just as much of the show as the band. i reserved myself from crowd surfing, i wasn’t in that kind of spirit plus i already have a bruise on my thigh and any more i’ll be looking like courtney love in the people vs. larry flint, not a good look for a film. or life.

turn the volume way down.

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we were caught in the corner and as the shit show began teacher was on his way back from the john, it was a momentary apocalyptic adrenaline surge, when shit goes down and loved ones are separated in a mob.

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someone nicked fifteen bucks from the bar that i put down for two seconds. i asked teacher if he had the money and i thought he said yes but when another beer time rolled around turns out he thought i asked something else entirely. oh well. i found a hundred bucks in a cab not too long ago so, you win some you lose some.

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my hair is pretty yellow right now i need a bit more toning. i need brennen!

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overhearing girls in the wrongbar bathroom is a guilty pleasure especially when taking photos of yourself and they’re whining on the outside of the door. i had to wait now it’s your turn.

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claire was a saucy librarian at the backbar, made the night more fun to have her there.

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i stuffed napkins in my ears and made the teacher as well. he is deaf city enough already and it gets us in fights when i have to repeat myself.

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it was a thrill. anagram were also amazing. good punk pairing.

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pure theatre. raw, loud, therapeutic and i would do it again. i like these dudes. it’s neat to me that my dad’s band Dr. Robert played this very stage too, and i joined in for a few.

and a month before that i sang enter sandman to a packed house and i killed it.

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i was the only one who got to sing.

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nice new kicks babe. yum.

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we had a chicken wing date at the caddy first. the patio was in proper shit show form. it was fun at first but then turned on us and we became slightly irritable. loved our waitress. for once.

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just a sec i have to make some magic.

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buh buh blah bye bye! ha exactly. goin’ to a bbq and i am all out of outfits and too lazy to go to adventurehouse to collect more.

IT ALL BEGAN ON A BLOG IN A UNIVERSE FAR FAR AWAY

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i couldn’t possibly be any more overwhelmed right meow. well, maybe if i had a gun pointed at my head, which it feels like, trying to crank out some deep thoughts and observations amidst a barrel of things on a confusing to do list of choice and prediction. ok i choose to go to THAT party, but, it’s during THIS showcase AND it’s on the other side of town BUT something “might happen” and if i miss it… i WISH my brain activity was equivalent and as simple as a hamster running on a wheel, but it’s not and lets face it, it never was nor shall be so lets excuse the fancy pantsy charade and get on with the raymi show so i can put another raymi outfit together and get my ass out the door for some rock ‘n rollin’.

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yesterday my colleague pushed it to the limit, blew his shoulder out (maybe he is faking it so he can have another fascial therapy sesh with kash) so i had to take some pics, look at me go go.

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at the annual nxne kick off jam. it was neat to walk around blonde there, i was a literal ghost, looking into faces i’ve seen for years, they double take me, i only half recall names, always the faces though, but yeah, they remember me as brunette raymi. i surprised crispin at sneaky dee’s today. he suggested going to silver dollar tonight, and so we shall. got teacher a wristband. oh ps that little lesbo hairdo belongs to my long lost pal alicia. she was drunk and i couldn’t even tell. hi alicia i missed you, your partying skills have improved and they were always stellar so i look forward to rippin’er with ya this season. courtney of course is my gal pal forevs.

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yeah hi i’m media i am here to cover your event with my amazing camera blahaa. i came to party not to cover, you guys can cover me.

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i saw a lot of my friends i haven’t seen in awhile, all in various drunken stages, it was pleasant. i didn’t get there til ten. there are always two parts to a party, the early part, and the later part so you’re choosing your own party adventure with option early or option later. both have their downsides and upsides omg what am i a party zen master now, bad sign. i will tone down the tara reid.

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oh hi there.

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at one point the light in the loo went out. leslie wanted me to send a pic of my face cos she was hanging with a billionaire and wanted to sell me to him or something.

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lights back on and all my girls flock in. hi paddy!

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today at 88 ossington what a nice, nice, nice space. thanks for the converse micki!

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do not expect any form of order in this update.

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love her bag. fluorescent is in again some told me.

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got teacher a pair too, he rsvp’d but he’s a teacher so, you can’t teach class from a shoe launch party. maybe someday. the shoes are gorgeous. he’s turning into a greedy monster with all the social media spoiling i’m bestowing on him. one of my perks.

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i love these chucks. they’re so delicate i don’t even want to call them chucks. teacher’s are jack purcells. v yachty elitist snotty. my faves.

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what does your office look like? sorry not rubbing it in, if you think about it, this makes sense. we’re out on the street hustling from party to whatever to do the thing, get the coverage, then on to the next, it’s a very fast-paced thing and sometimes you wish there were two of you to do it all so when i get a snarky jealous mean comment it’s a bit of a piss off as, i earned this. so to keep the blog going, the one you read at your desk, i gotta go do stuff and get things to put on to the crap-o-blog for you to be seduced by. MAGIC!

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putting a dumb outfit together can be gruelling enough. one for each day, or 3 in a day. can’t wear that one thing that would pull it together because you wore it the day before. sometimes it’s like fuck the blog i want to wear the same shorts everyday until they wear out. i am also still supremely annoyed that all the crap i bought at UO last weekend went on sale immediately afterward.

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how dumb are you, honestly. someone needs to go back to said school but i guess they can’t cos it’s something else now and what does it matter anyway you moved on to highchool assumedly? if you’re going to go to the trouble to make a statement with graffiti, two things: spellcheck and make sure it’s something a little less self-involved.

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skipped over to the youth in music showcase at sneaky dee’s to catch harlan pepper, young band, v good.

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there was a lot of this. i was pretty good at avoiding it. they had deep fried jalapenos though.

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hi agim!

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theeeeere’s paddy again. we are stalking one another.

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i can’t believe this was just yesterday morning it feels like it was a million lightyears ago. picking up my pass from the hyatt nxne homebase.

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hair appt. brennen was doing luminato and cos i was the bonehead who missed my appt tuesday, bringing half of yesterday’s stress-doings on to my shoulders. jackie was a darling and took me on. her flower shirt matched my jumper.

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it was the only time i had to sit down. i saw a girl sitting on a curb casually playing with a bottle of san pel today while i cabbed over to ossington and i was envious of her, despite how slovenly and street urchin she appeared (she wasn’t a hobo) she just seemed mellow and i was like, when will i have the time to sit on a sidewalk like that, not that i would, but like, maybe in august i could schedule ten minutes of solid loitering. that would be a dreeeam.

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toning those tresses.

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murder traffic so bad you all sit silently thinking unholy thoughts.

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might go back for a little toning before my movie/south beach.

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omg i love them.

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dropped in to snoop around and i got teacher a pass. golden gooses walking, step aside.

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this a blog post for another day, or not. lets just say that i am a bonafide athlete and this was the rickitiest rustiest most out of alignment deathride straight outta hell like the icing on the omg my head is going to explode right meow cake and my ass was oh yep you betcha, all out there, prob some labe too if you’re lucky. i’m lending her to melodie cos i can’t bother dealing with the maintenance. she sat out all winter long and has the battle scars to prove it and i’m pretty sure riding it with zero oil on a brown/orange rusted chain didn’t help. why don’t you sell chain oil, shell? i’m like show me your oil and he shows me motor oil. i bet any kind of grease would have sufficed but why the hell do i want to buy motor oil and have the entire universe watch me pour it all over the fucking place?

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crabby media line-ups are the best. you (me included) guys criticize and whine about everything for a living, gonna write a review about a line-up? no don’t, i want to first ahhaha.

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we had to stop power-eating hamburgers for like, a day at the v least so we had parkdale sushi finally at that one place near duff/king and the view is totally worth it, nothing but constant entertainment with a rotating cast of parkdale characters. i think i saw craig walk by, if he has long hair now then it was him. i almost ran out to yell CRAAAAAAAAIG down the street at him but i wasn’t sure so shyness won that round.

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i have zero appetite these days.

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we watched sex and the city 2. i’d already seen it with meredith in the theatre but wanted to see it again, hangover days call for guilty pleasure cinema.

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i’m going to move some of these up to the roof for our next jam up there, whenever that will be, probably never because THERE’S NO TIME ever never again all the time? gone!

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mystery olympus time.

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shoe pr0n everywhere.

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i spy batman.

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i somehow managed to match my outfit to casie‘s.

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micki is sample size (7, jeals) so she gets all the goodies. i would love to see her swag closet. no i would likely start crying with my fists in my eyes and pout like a pro.

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i love that shade of blue. v popping in pics.

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and we were off.

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we got backpacks too. we were quite the spectacle.

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we are keeners.

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harlan pepper are total talents. if you don’t sound like raging idiots during soundcheck then raymi is your fan. i worked at the central for 8 months, 150 bands a month, (and NOT all of them were winners) you do the math i am all soundchecked out, but these kids, what were they playing, zeppelin? i dunno but it was perfect for my vibe at the time. brought me up.

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these didn’t hurt.

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hi tim! and bedouin soundclash guy?

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this guy broke his leg skateboarding in edmonton, many more tour stops to go brah good luck with your project 12 tracks. they’re recording a band in every tour stop. they won a pepsi grant cos their idea didn’t suck.

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heehee look at how much of an a-hole i am.

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mmmmm.

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he asked me what i thought all that deep fried shit could be. i said no way dude you tell me. jalapeno!

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den levy and his three phones. he’s one of ten people who told me today they stayed up til 7am. wtf. i can’t wait to try and hold a conversation with someone come saturday, complete messes by then ha ha.

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one is for a review, another is his main line, and the third, no idea. i couldn’t care less as my blackberry is a POS and i’m tired of blog nerd tweeters and their free gadgets up in my grill, no offence dan ;) i just want to simply THROW MY PHONE INTO THE ^&$*&$ SUN.

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i didn’t know 4 year olds could drive now.

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does this guy get infinity parking tickets or what?

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cuute.

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i wonder what’s going to grow out of that plot? a job? HAHAH sorry i am starting to lose it i also got in a fight with a hippie woman at a ring stand cos she said no pictures. i’ll spin that yarn later.

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impressive.

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it’s funny to me that there are now entire think tanks about stuff (brand) i started when i was 17, like, are you all idiots or something? come up with a good name, cool it up, share it and blammo. i was kinda insulted by this chick yesterday who said not to worry/bother coming to these geek chic nxnei circle jerks and to just live my life. she’s a long time reader. it was insulting like i am some (i am) idiot incapable of talking to a room of smug nerds. no matter, you can all glean it from my book. meeting with editor next week. booyah.

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cutie casie.

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crazy day eh? just another and another.

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and then the night before. get us your pics jason what are you busy doing anyway staring at your eight pack in the mirror you lone wolf you.

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i went legless.

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and i didn’t eat a thing, no-thing. stress and beer is all i need.

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this is a pose of some sort.

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hi megan!

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now here’s some other crap i uploaded may as well throw up.

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sushi date time.

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bf is getting hotter. i was like, are you going to dump me now that you bought a good outfit haha. this isn’t it but yeah someone’s coming up to my level now.

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this is my casual girlfriend outfit we came up with a song about it. the lyrics are endless and hilarious and the song is horrible, it’s gonna be a big hit.

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ok i just blogged through a party so you better have enjoyed the hell out of this. the nxne diaries will continue tomorrow, adieu.

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Qu’ils mangent de la brioche

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The history-making day arrived where i learn the trade secrets of an empire, put them to practise, steal them, blog them, and take a cake for the road.

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My admiration for Carol and Michael is swoonily apparent when we get together, they are theatre-incarnate, such a pair (like my nana and papa, inseparable) the Carole/Michael show is entertainment at its finest I am happy to be on board.

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now watch how my initiation went down. i was very nervous and i hid it with vanna white smiles and then hiding behind the mixer.

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the whipping cream (slowly) goes in after the cream cheese, which is fun to watch fold around and around as the texture takes on a gloopier form. i am clumsy and often don’t trust myself, had a few hand mangled by blender visions to get over and shut out in order to pro it up in front of these ladies.

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can you see the fear in my eyes? hahaha. somehow the apron made me look more naked so now i have the idea for my own raymi nudist cooking show, episode one, bacon frying ahahhaa. ouch.

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turning something savoury, bordering on so, into something sweet is a magical experience.

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carole expertly doled out many helpful tips along the way, to turn the speed from 1 to 2 when adding ingredients, stopping to spatula the cream cheese batter from the sides of the bowl and beaters. it’s a process, not a long one, but still you mustn’t rush it.

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can you picture this woman in her basement making cakes as a hobby, and now look. not only did she create for herself a sensational success of a cheesecake company, she also started this city on carrot cake. careful when you browse the cake selections though because i tweeted a pic/link to the site yesterday and someone said they spent 5 minutes drooling.

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i love carole’s way, she’s sweet and a firecracker simultaneously. i can relate.

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got herself some helpers straight off the bat. do you guys wanna see the goods? heck yes pass’er around boy.

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michael had two costume changes for his dish presentations (the first he taught the class was how to make his rapini, oh so garlicky yum i inhaled a plate the second we got there, yesterday was a full busy one) so i think we have uncovered who the real diva is in this duo. i am adding vanilla and almond extract i believe here. potent stuff.

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have a whiff.

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make yourself useful any way you can. it was a fun relaxed atmosphere, like cooking with your mom, joking around and when too many cooks in the kitchen, take a step back or two this is the carole show here, i am shadowing her.

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my hair matches the batter, that’s what i asked for yesterday at the salon, please match my hair to cheesecake as i will be making one immediately after this appointment i might need a caption filler to save my ass on a few pics in case i run out of jokes thank you.

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add the eggs. always crack them in a separate container (like on tv)(or in real life if you aren’t an idiot) cos you never know what’s inside that shell, not to mention, shell cakes never really caught on.

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pouring the batter in. this is the almond cheesecake by the way, you missed the part when i poured in the crushed fine almonds as slowly as possible carole’s like, you can go a bit faster raymi. i got tempo-paranoia, too fast too slow everyone is watching infomercial live ack!

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all down to the last scrape.

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then you put it in a square pan

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and get michael to bring you a pitcher of water while he announces in a shakespearean accent a pitcher of wat-ur my lady. haha so funny. the water in the square pan heats up in the oven and i guess that’s the extra secret magic behind making cheesecakes right.

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i think i overheard them (again) talking about abducting, kidnapping, and/or adopting me, one or all three.

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put that baby in the oven and set to i don’t know what i was too busy pretending i was on a game show.

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and sweating by the ovens. speaking of shadows, colleague has himself one, she helped take these shots (thanks lindsay!) a much welcome addition to team crazy raymi colleague. also, she’s carole’s granddaughter, a very cool chick.

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then we got MORE trade secrets! the caramel brownie cheesecake starts out like this.

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omg i didn’t know there would be a test!

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this was fun, fun to watch, beautiful actually, seeing liz expertly spin the turntable (where’s a dj when you need to make fun of one?) as she spreads the decadent rich chocolate icing with that implement doo-hicky thing i didn’t hear what it was called cos a surgeon was too busy complimenting my writing, intellect, and teeth, and hair too hahh. when i meet blog readers/lurkers, some of them really like to discuss how i write, that i write, it makes me blush. i can’t describe the process, well maybe one day i will, but not now grasshopper it’s brownie time.

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i guess you make a divot gradually in the centre because next you will be adding caramal (omg mmmmm) and it will need a place to go lest it overflow? though, (stop rhyming raymi!) you will be stacking little brownie squares all around the top so the caramel will be safely confined within the brownie castle, and then my stomach.

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the caramel.

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it looks soooo goooooood.

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now here comes building your rook (chess joke!)

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everyone got up to have a go.

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i had other things on my mind.

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apparently that plaid shirt kid can speak like 4 languages. what is he thinking right meow?

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she was a quick study, and quite good.

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don’t you just want to dump that chocolate right all over it once you’re done with the building? one would think that’s the way to do it, the end result of course being totally sloppy ugtastical. this is why you don’t do that, you ladle it on. AH HA it’s a ladle! i’m so smart.

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that’s little lindsay. rules. and bill the dental surgeon, lovely people. see michael’s costume change? i suggested to carole having a michael figurine commissioned, their cafe regulars would so totally buy one. i’ll have a napolitana, a nicoise salad and a michael please, that’s all.

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liz is so sweet and soft spoken where do all these nice people come from!!? i may or may not have left with my own chocolate squeeze bottle (such a great idea). ok no i didn’t.

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a communal piece goes around (we all had our own forks haha yeah and the communal fork too can you imagine) to sample. it was a very oprah winfrey moment. i love when they would only give like 5 samples out to the audience and you could see vicious looks from the ones who weren’t chosen.

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i went right for the chocolate. one woman was like, totally girl.

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we kept cheering and clapping at each step in the process, no wait not yet, there’s more. time to adorn the castle.

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queen of the castle showcase.

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next up chef boyardee and a champers toast, it’s their 50th next saturday. congrats you devils.

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my eyebrows have disappeared, can you help me find them? NO REWARD.

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then teacher showed up looking all cute, see me checking him out haha.

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then the architect builds a beautiful salad.

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which i instantly called dibs on and massacred. michael, i ate your house.

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smoking, a disgusting habit.

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cakes everywhere! behind the scenes is my favourite.

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so could have fit in there.

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no thanks.

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checking on my friend.

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too hot he said, back in it goes. oh that was fun. i left with an almond cake, (uhh totally that almond one that i made i swear! hahah) for my dad for daddy’s day this sunday (dad i have an event in the day so we’ll be coming later in the day sorry!)

huge thanks to Carole’s Cheesecake for this (and for my birthday cakes too). i love cooking. i love eating. i love photographing, blogging and talking about food. it is no secret. it is my dream to have my own cooking show someday. oh and by the way their groupon deal sold through the roof like we knew it would, Carole’s back baby and she never left. next time i am shooting all her framed media glory from over the years adorning the resto and loos, great big hairdos in her past haha.

XOXOX your pal raymi.

ps. my title is french for let them eat cake i’m sure you’re familiar with this infamous proclamation.

a to-do is how we do

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wednesday we are here. i am a bonehead and forgot abut my hair appt tomorrow despite it being printed on the fridge. totally have zero time in my sched to resched it today but had to and they could barely squeeze me in too. made it happen thank you thank you thank you roots are out of control, tired of having to wear hair down even though it looks chic i will be wanting to put that messy sweaty hot mane up for sure later in the week.

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i love these lilies.

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another day another bouquet.

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didn’t even get in trubs this time for ‘em haha.

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my aunt gave me that jewelry box for xmas and now that i am amassing jewelry thanks to lance romance i lifted it from the shelf at my dad’s. more glitz mooooore!

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cats are kinda shitty detectives. paw prints all over the crime scene.

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cheers pals.

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team cabbage patch is about as intimidating as playschool.

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always a do-over.

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teacher said he liked brock. i guess in our brood you have no choice but to get along but when you actually do, the good times roll. sabrina had a dentist dude friend in attendance gratefully for teacher. that sounds like a joke set-up, a dentist and a teacher and a rabbi… anyway teacher liked dentist too.

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we take out jobs seriously.

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i ate that. holy free f–ing advertising much. i’m sorry but my romantic balcony view is BK how long til YOU would break? it was closed so the next evil kiddy corner to it was a land of a slightly different garbage.

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this time there wasn’t any fighting up in here, there wasn’t anyone in fact. just us winners.

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i am writing this under duress so i have no witty caption for this.

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ok eff bberry, olympus mystery shot B-sides.

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here comes my entrance.

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if i burn these down faster does it mean we get to go to ikea again sooner?

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gah nooo not the gingham one! IT MATCHES THE RUG.

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my next read.

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strung out sunday. a v long weekend.

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ugh these chips are gross, gross let down.

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they taste like neither. NEITHER!

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i am going to frame these

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i am going to russia.

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i didn’t bring my empties afterall like i joked. i read they aren’t accepting them there, is that to ward off hobos in precious libville? hope not. can i bring empties here?

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how you get service, flirt and snap and ask for a heineken. flattery get you everywhere in life people.

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here’s my west side story.

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it looked like we were just parking lot hanging so i made them pose before the tent. drove by this spot yesterday and the absence of party tent is blatant. party sentimental.

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we came, we saw, we gav’er.

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looks like brownies.

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COOL PARTY DUDES.

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that server was way into our partying and i spied her dancing too.

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sabrina was impressed by how i had teacher trained, i don’t (i do), it’s just here’s my camera, do the thing and we can get the heck outta here and tart dranking. i’m not exactly doing rocket science here right. debatable. i think if you’re gonna throw down with 8 chicks you know what to do pretty much immediately.

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cuuute.

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the dentist and the teacher.

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babes.

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i wanted in.

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i love vanilla sky. i love penelope cruz.

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bouncin’.

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a to-do is how we do.

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when i first arrived.

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calf def.

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pin-up.

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brock you loo retarded. aww.

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blurry, wasted teach?

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what’s up deb lewis! nice party.

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tackled another pr chick down. man they’re everywhere. what’s up raymi@raymitheminx.com LOLZ.

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wuh oh i know what that means.

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going back in time waiting for the cab i was having outfit doubts cos of the chill and the getting psyched out but i went for it and look how much fun i had. always push it girls don’t give in to the shy monster.

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omg so shy.

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ok i gotta go it’s work out time and my day is overflowing with stuff check ya laterrrr.

gotta bury it and carry it

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hello kitty in the sun 2005. we’ve always been involved.

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an installation i’d visit in oakvegas.

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eat your heart out celine dion. titanic, my heart will go on ok ok not everyone is as clever as me omg i’m getting lost in my flickr trying to find something i already forget what thank god for multiple browsers.

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that’s sarah. 2005.

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i took this at a friend of family’s place, guy had quite the collection.

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my mom and i, oct 2004.

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my grandfather’s memorial tree. RIP JRW. taught me chess.

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i lived on the oakville drag. became a drunk because it canceled out my post trauma jitters of mind, silenced them.

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took this in vancouver, mg and k-os backstage at ubc . metric was also on the bill. k-os asked if i was in the band. we later got chatty on myspace, i was with my ex at the time. it’s amazing sometimes the people you can reach, and inspire. k os said a photo of me was inspiring to him. anyway this was in april 2005. mg and i were tight then.

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i was a witness at city hall with jamie for a lesbo wedding. i signed it. proud day. these two girls came to canada just for this, both new yorkers i think. jamie, jamie jamie where have you been? need to reconnect.

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feist 2005.

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a scary tree.

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noel. a bandit. hiding something.

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installation.

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abandoned supermarket turned movie store upstairs.

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they’d be how old now? maybe 20.

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not surprisingly, spicoli here, was on acid. where you at now boy?

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i peeked in a window.

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my snowy cedar grove blvd backyard rip 1049. watch it you might get lost in my drawing bad blog.

the back of my book. published at 23/24? i painted that pig.

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always with the fans. love the fans. love my fans. 2005. you still reading?

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blythe my muse. i identified with dolls. the unspeaking.

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my brother loved kurt cobain. i took it further, i BECAME HIM. AHAHHAHSHS see how depressed and emo teen angst yet young i am. apparently i was a cholo too. my mom is feeding a horse and i am like i do not give ^$*^& i’m hardcore son.

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melodie and i in 2005. woah.

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dec 12 2005.

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bad pic and i am fat here but at least i am freestyling along with beastie boys karaoke ya punk b*tches. werd.

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bata shoe museum.

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i love jeremy the bear. ok i have to give up this post is taking me long to find the photo i want. see you later. hope you enjoyed this distraction brought to you by the letters A, D, H, and D. sayonara!

Blond Jovi back together again

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she challenges me, i inspire her.

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casie nicked one of my feather earrings when i snuck up behind them on the other side of the beer boutique party fence so we were cyndi lauper. someone snarked to me oh didn’t you just like tweet those feather earrings, isn’t there another one? yeah and it’s on casie on the other side of the party. it let me know that she reads at least.

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i guess my style bible this season is dazed and confused through and through.

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many ladies came up and gushed over these shorts and i happily shared where they could get themselves their own pair see not everyone is harsh. sam (say hi to meika for me!) of notable relation said she was amazed by how in person i am nothing like raymi the minx, this alleged meanie. people love to character assassinate me. if you have to sit around talking and trashing me, it’s your character that sucks sorry to say.

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queen liberty has arrived.

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i had no clue what casie would be wearing. it goes like this HI. HI! bla bla etc so busy omg i know so am i ugh agh k so still going? yeah? ok what are you wearing? i dunno. yeah me either k see u there and then we’re both in short shorts. voila.

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partying in a crew is wicked times.

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the shorts contained two cups of beer on one piss. so they’re good for festival season. i don’t even know if i had an entire beer, my cup kept being drank by someone, teacher probably or whomever they all looked the same. kept disappearing, reappearing. i liked the muskoka beer.

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why did we go to the lcbo to buy our beer before the hours were over? because i bet the beer boutique wouldn’t sell to us hahahahahh can you imagine after bringing down the house drunken wedding reception styles and then walking up all sweaty to a clerk, uh hi yeah, i’ll take a 12 of lakeport please (something trashy to go with the joke). no sale.

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omg my calf muscles.

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haha i look like i am checking into a hotel.

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got to go home with the girl i hit on all night long. it was easy.

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just whispered something sweet in her ear and she was insta-puddy.

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i didn’t do under eyeliner lat night cos i was afraid of the allergy rain, which never came despite that crazy wind, and i looked prettier with less makeup so i think i am going to retire one of the two mascaras i glob on. raymisemo isn’t dead yet though so don’t worry pets.

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now THAT is the muscle definition.

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brock is our baby that we have been grooming, for what who knows but he better remember his grandmas and not eff up his future/life/career you hear that?

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scatter order you know how it is. crazy week crazy blog.

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carly has blond hair now!

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oh casie. showed her my blog stats yesterday and she was like woooooah. we are going to paris and nicole this shit now son. i’m getting creepy nasty emails from people trying to cause a war between us. keep trying.

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i was not very hungry last night, i’m stressed, yesterday was a bad day but i triumphed. not until our late night mcdonald’s stop. why is it when i eat fast food i get skinnay? new meal plan!

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black bean empanada something or other.

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it’s confusing to see stunning photographers right? like uh babe, you are on the wrong side of the camera.

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there’s a major stupid feud in the blogto thread about this beer boutique launch that turned all ontario booze monopoly when hey guys, it’s just a new location in libertyf-ing-village be grateful and shut up. i am psyched about this store.

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my little april was there hi cutie!

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ooh i love this one.

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tell me you don’t want these publicity stunt artists showin’ up all over your turf. raymi@raymitheminx.com – or talk to casie im going to let her start handling this shit meow.

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everyone loves teacher. keri’s new do is so cute she looks like she just touched down from sweden.

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i have my own wind machine.

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one day we will be moms, but not today.

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so keep on keepin’ on.

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it’s neat to have two pics of one moment. why is everyone falling into themselves like lazy potatoes? i’m doing a crash posing course stat. it keeps coming up.

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doinks.

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it’s a fly boutique alright.

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all losers. ha i just remembered something funny i said last night about starting my blog, like, i’m funny in real life and fun and whatever so that’s great to this room full of losers i’m hanging around impressing, so maybe i should start a blog to impress MORE losers.

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did i post this already or no it’s the other angle from that other one omg who cares just look at my ab def peeking out. that’s like after 4000 burgers somehow.

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7 dollar pants on the scene. pretty girls.

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on our way to eat fast food and send casie in a cab.

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running out of time to get your own shirt cas. also get your intern to make u team raymi/team casie shirts. like that won’t blow up in my face and make me cry bwahahaa.

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she showed me how to do push ups to define my triceps. not telling you.

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i photobombed her. thank god no one says that anymore.

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we made another quad blogger mirror video that is SO long. i will pour another cup of coffee and studiously take it in and decide whether or not it is suitable for public consumption.

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i have a bruise on my right arm, the flower tat arm but looks like my left in this reverse photo, anyway, the bruise is from hopping a fence. because i am a ninja. a burger king ninja.

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i am blogging face.

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someone splurged on vic secret and an amazing bra. not i sir, not i.

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practise shots setting up here. anther thing people do in photos is all hunch over like we’re hobbits in bilbo baggin’s house like, come on guys, full height please we don’t need perspectives like gandalf is fuckin showing up. we watched mitch hedburg last night too and i decided to emphasize my humour more which only showcases my writing and higher-intellectual abilities. the thing rob said about me to teacher was, “it’s her writing man” is what makes raymi special. i’m sorry i let ego and wanting to be prettier than i was intelligent get in the way, but now here we are.

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half the secret to these beautifying snaps is natural lighting. stand in front of the window and it will erase your eyebags if done right.

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reminds me of that shot of the two hot hipster babes flashing traffic on the BQE. (brooklyn queens expressway to the nerds reading).

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teacher brought me home flowers.

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lucky girl.

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that is all for now. have a grand tuesday, maybe bump into you this week.

don’t forget i’ll be baking cakes with Carole’s Cheesecake this wednesday evening i have been looking forward to this for awhile. join us! then i’ll be dropping in unfashionably late to 99 sudbury for the nxne shit show kick off jam. a truly overwhelming week. but fun. thursday we get free converse shoes! and saturday i get to tag along with casie to that bhd gifting lounge i am FLOORED. greedy greedy greedy susan. i have zero idea what i am going to be doing for actual music though all the parties are getting up in my grill aghh email tell me what bands to see: raymitheminx@gmail.com bye-o.

this little thing called a blog might make you miss me less

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i was referenced in the gridto last week. kate asked me to advise on this internet Q, second one down:

I’m an active tweeter and blogger. I’m always on Facebook and LinkedIn, and I post life updates multiple times a day. This isn’t a problem for my employer or even my recent ex, but Twitter came up at a family dinner recently, and I made the mistake of defending it. Now my mom and stepdad are reading my posts and acting differently towards me. I’m not going to take anything down or defend myself, but I don’t like that they’re making me feel like I’ve done something wrong.—V.C.

Being mean-ish to you about something that is none of their business is sucky, but it’s also understandable that your parents are weirded out that there are versions of you other than the one who comes over for dinner. It’s probably disconcerting for them to find this anti–treasure trove of your ideas and experiences, and to confront you in an adult context. But isn’t that how you felt when you found their porn that time?

Lauren White, who exhaustively documents her relationships, her nights out and her boobies as Raymi the Minx, says that she initially thought it was a mistake to give her mom the URL to her blog. “She would not stop commenting. Sometimes she’d call in tears and I’d scream and hang up.” In other words, it’s definitely your parents’ problem, not yours, but it’s going to be awkward for everybody.

Your problem is what psychiatrist Carl Jung (and, uh, lots of other dudes) called “individuation.” This is the process of becoming yourself through “differentiation” (blogging about the stuff that you think and feel, not what your mom, boss or boyfriend wants you to think and feel) and “integration” (giving negative-10 shits what any of them think because, as Drake, Toronto’s most individuated rapper, says, “Oh yeah, that’s right, I’m doing me”).
We live half online now, and it’s real. It’s totally cool that you want your family to respect and take your internet-self seriously. (Or, you could do like me and pretend really hard that your family hasn’t found Google yet.) White says, “If it really bothers you and changes how you write—it will—then ask them not to read it, [or] put them on limited Facebook profiles.” Individuation means you’re no longer constructing a near-replica of your parents’ lives; it means “doing me.” That has got to be a fucked-up concept for post-fortysomethings to understand, which is actually kind of cute and sad. Anyway, you’re not doing anything wrong and they’ll probably relax. If they won’t acknowledge the online-you, defer to Raymi the Minx and “kindly tell them to go fuck themselves.”

and, because this is the internet and i am an opportunistical content hog (i’m personally sending scouts out to shows as media for me this week, using my empire to gain media access for their art. sharin’ the wealth) here is the orig Q and my full weigh-in. if you have copies of this issue please get me a pile thank you i missed the boat. AGAIN.

Heya,

I received a question from a reader for my advice column in the Grid, who is worried because her online life has been discovered (wasn’t “hidden”, but wasn’t known about before) by her family. They aren’t totally scandalized but they’re definitely uncomfortable, judgmental, etc. I would love to use you as my “guest expert” for the column, if you’re up for it. Let me know? It doesn’t take very long; I just email the question and you weigh in however you want. Kelly Cutrone was my expert this week, here it is; http://www.thegridto.com/life/advice/work-hard-and-stfu/

thanks!
Kate

Totally!

Awesome! Here it is:

Dear Kate: Ugg, I have a nauseating situation on my hands. Just like every other 28 year old disgruntled and sometimes extremely happy woman with too much time on her hands, I have unconsciously created something of an online presence for myself. I have an active Twitter account and a blog I update at least every day, and Facebook and LinkedIn. No Formspring yet, though. This is not a problem for my employer, who knows all about it (she also has Twitter!) or my recent ex, but at a family dinner Twitter came up and I made the mistake of defending it as though I knew what I was talking about, and now my dad, my brothers, my aunts have all been checking me out online and acting differently toward me. I’m not going to take anything down or even defend myself, but I don’t like that they’ve seen another side of me and are making me feel like I’ve done something wrong. How should i deal?

If you’re able to send me back your thoughts/feelings today, that would be awesome. Please answer however you like: fun, serious, whatever.

xx

Gaha poor girl kay thinking now will get back soon

DRUMROLL PLEASE…

You went to the trouble of defending your much loved online alter-ego life to your family, so stick to it. You seem heavily invested in carving an online realm and likely know that you don’t exist (intellectually) in this modern day without one. Blogs are your IN, why censor yourself to save aunt Myrtle from a heart attack if it’s already working for you and your employer is on board? Money trumps family when you become a grown-up, IMO but your family is your number one cheering section and while at first it’s not easy to handle the idea of your dad seeing your (my) tits on the internet, deal with it pops cos you’re walking in on MY dream here. It’s no easy feat to stand out on the internet now, there are so many of us 28 year old sassy broads out there and we’ve all figured out how to be clever and biting and pose in cute outfits for lookbook so, your family should be nurturing this “hobby” potential business enterprise of yours and if they don’t dear Ugg, kindly tell them to go fuck themselves. You’re not getting younger or cuter (maybe?) you know, whose life is this anyway? I feel like you are whining about your brother reading your sticker book or something, the only way I see your family having any sort of hold over your online persona is if you’re Mormon or some shit, guy. If I ever listened to my family in terms of online multimedia or whatever I would not be raymi the fucking minx. I gave my mom my blog url the day I packed my bags and drove to Brooklyn at 18, sayonara oh and ps. this little thing called a blog might make you miss me less. For awhile I thought it a huge mistake, she would not stop commenting, sometimes she’d call in tears and I’d scream and hang up. She’d call back, granted I was 19 and train(joyride)wrecking all over the netz but so what. I never planned to work in an office so the people can see my skeletons. Not to be a psychic or anything but it sounds like you are already doing the safety dance on the internet and couldn’t possibly be anywhere near to how controversial (stupid) and provoking I am on the internet day in day out so if your family has beef with that then the issue is with them and 28 years of pent-up wall of silences are gonna come rolling out for a good old fashioned family referendum of awesome. When people take issue with other people’s blogs (facebooks, lives whatever) it says more about them than it does you. If mom doesn’t like your opinions then she can start her own damn blog, hell, mine did and for all the years of nitpicking me and nagging, hey mom, don’t tell me! tell the internet! This could bring your family closer to you, look at the positives. You can also use your blog to suck up to them, the pay-offs are endless. HAPPY BIRTHDAY UNCLE HANK! See? Genius. Anyway, if it really bothers you and changes how you write (it will) then ask them to not read it, put them on limited facebook profiles. People get very good very fast at acting like they don’t read your blog, trust me, cos they know deep down they’re pussies and could never do what you do which is why they live vicariously through your shit. It will get better.

sorry kinda ranty, hope it suffices.

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im throwing my orig on the bloggo. thanks kate and i hope to run into you and your big jugs some day IRL.

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