Bullies will always be losers which is why they’re bullies
Hi Raymi. I’ve been following you for awhile and have seen you lose a fair bit of weight. It is inspiring; I’ve just never told you because I’ve always thought that you must get that a lot and if I can’t be original I’d rather not try (we all have our hang-ups). But you also get a lot of bullshit and it never seems to stop so more niceties are deserved.
Such a brief comment from Katia and look what it started. It was a thoughtless thing to say. Some people can’t not criticize. We all know them in real life but it’s shittier to encounter them on the internet because the criticism is visible to all and lasts, unlike the stinging, but passing, comment made by some jerk at a party, for example. And because the internet offers anonymity they can show their true colours without anyone finding out that they are ugly on the inside. When you think about it like that it almost makes these people sound like the psycopaths in that they try to pass themselves off as normal people but secretly get off on abusing others.
I question her motivation for saying something shitty like that and the only answer I can come up with is that she’s a bit off – mentally, behaviourally, etc. Or maybe she actually is trying to get to you – malicious, vindictive, plotting (still would make her a bit off).
You’re secure enough in your body to show it off and there really is nothing sexier than that. I went to the strippers once and saw a few bigger ladies dancing and they were really sexy. And it made me realize that I can be sexy, too, because being sexy has nothing to do with size and everything to do with confidence. That being said, you’re obviously really tiny and I think it’s good for everyone to see that if you know what you want and are willing to work for it you can attain it. If you didn’t have this confidence I would be worried about your headspace – it’s worrisome when thin girls who go on about how fat they are.
Anyway, from this one comment about rolls it became this crazy accusation that you were lying about your weight. Honest about everything else, why would you lie about that? Good on you for proving yourself yet again. It reminds me of celebrities suing tabloids for printing bullshit. Somebody has to call them on it and I’m happy when someone who can, does.
It’s just a bit exhausting because the shit never, ever stops. And I am just a reader so I don’t know how you can take it as the target. You’re still going strong so you obviously don’t need any advice from me. But in case it ever gets hard I’ll tell you again, you’re in gorgeous shape and you inspire the thinking people out there. There are always going to be some people who just don’t get it, can’t take it, and are just plain shitty. Some people never stop being cruel bullies. But you’re great and it’s clear you’re surrounded by loving and supportive people in you’re every day life. So I envy you – great friends, family, body, career, clothes, home, pets, motivation, strength, drive, taste in music, the list goes on. Merry Christmas!
I’ll keep on reading.
Teresa
P.S. Did you mean that you thought the girls at Lux Spa were “see you next tuesdays” when you wrote that on your blog awhile ago? I went there on your recommendation! Twice!! I did tell them I was there because I read about them on your blog, too. So – your advertising works. Support your local small businesswoman, I say. Unfortunately, they effed up my brows.
Bullies will always be losers which is why theyre bullies.
Thanks teresa that was really nice to receive ima blob it
xoxo fight the power
dont hesitate to write anytime, i love to hear from you guys.
rlw
ps. Yes they WERE uppity twats. that was the beginning of the end of my third party blogvertorialing for tha’ city, people irl don’t get what you’re doing and how it will make sense on the web. I had in-growns for days and they had the chatty demeanour of an eastern european servant at the turn of the century. Frosty.
pps. She came back again for more. Amusingish…
i stick by what i said. that is not the first time that scale has made mention on your blog…
ANYWAYS, i feel a little stuck because i don’t think there is anyway for me to state my case without having the opposite effect i hoped for where you are concerned (but realistically should have known better) other than this, you may or may not publish this comment but hopefully you at some point in your blogging ventures could post links to websites like shape of a mother or this is what a real woman looks like, just as i am OR my body gallery dot com. that way your readers (impressionable young female ones, that i will ALWAYS champion over personal platitudes) might have an opportunity to see other representations of weight and height. maybe walk the talk? any way you do you…imma keep doing me. don’t spin doctor my statements – THAT makes you look far worse than a few rolls ever could.
ANYWAYS ISN’T A WORD BY THE WAY. NO S REQUIRED. Would I say By the Ways? Which ways?? How many ways? One way! Moron! Any way, any is already pluralized, it isn’t singular. You sound stupid. Half my friends say anyways and I cringe inside when they do, Teacher says it and he’s a teacher. The Whites are a people of correctors with impeccable grammar skills which is why I am fully allowed to dumb it down as I know the proper way to write sentences, and spell.
Moving on now to my actual comment response to Katia aka “all good” pfft poser more like.
i have no fucking clue what you mean. this is done. boring. over. thank you i have rolls when i am on the ground kicking my leg up and two days before menstruating. this isnt a punk rock body statement on shit, i was accused of lying by you, and i proved that i wasnt. you are an asshole. look in the mirror and accept it, don’t cavort like you are defending little girls who shouldn’t be reading my blog anyway though you act like one. spin doctor? Honey you started that shit by dumping your character assassinations on me. i am the hero who posts raw life here you tried to “bring” me down “a peg” and failed.
I am used to this treatment, sad to say and just when I am at a point in my life where I am cool with my body more or less and like hyper focused on my career, the cut-throat niche market that it is, some giant loser has to dump all over my parade and waste my time? Nah dog I kept it going cos mo hate mo hits. I guess it could be worse, some boring geek could start a debate over I dunno what. There is something about me that triggers people to react, respond, chime in, I definitely should have a Jerry Springer talk show of some sort. Bleh.
Fortunately I am too busy kicking ass and taking names to reply with a burn so good your face would melt off like the Raiders of the Lost ark whichever one his face melts off in at the end by way of terrible cgi but anyway, revenge is a dish best served cold my number one SWF Raymimpersonator once blobbed. Henceforth just wait til January.
At the time these insults were dropped on my blog I was essentially blowin’ Luda in the back of a Maserati. Ha Maserati’s don’t have back seats, idiot! Ok I have to press publish now, enjoy this Katy Perry song I played twice and it was good and grating at the same time, go nuts. I look like Hulk Hogan/his daughter with my tan and platinum long stringy locks. I don’t know who I am anymore! Just j/k lol. Another fan mail from a little raymi after the video break. Oh and they call this fan mail no it has not gone to my eleven year blogging tenure’s inflated head, in Canada you are not allowed to horn toot.
hey raymi,
stupid twitter and its 140 character limit..
anyways, just thought i would touch on something thats a little bit sadder than what we were discussing before (but this convo made me think of it)
if you dont mind im gonna bring up some old shit that isnt my business but i want to tell you what i remembered from the particular post you wrote…
it was sometime after your breakup, i think you were trying to explain/justify why it took place and people were looking for answers that maybe they shouldnt have been looking for…
but you said something that stuck with me to this day..
you said (and this first part might not be verbatim but its close, the second is verbatim)
‘I wasnt healthy, the relationship wasnt healthy. I told myself daily ‘I want to die’ ‘
Even as I write this, that last sentence makes the hair on my neck stand up. To me, that was the most real glimpse i ever caught of Lauren, the Lauren outside of blogging, the IRL Lauren. Everyone knows (hello ****** *****) that constant debbie-downer/negative attitude doesnt get traffic (but you werent saying these things for traffic, you were being the most raw and honest about your personal life as i have ever seen, and ive been reading for half your blog’s life!) but yet you let that one sentence out and it was like a lightbulb for me.
You are a real person with real feelings and you take your pants off at night just like everyone else (maybe a little earlier than everyone else? hehehehe) and for that sentence to come out and make me realize that there is A LOT you hide from the public (whether good or bad) and it made me respect you that much more for having the guts to admit those dark feelings, when normally its all smiles and food and friends.
SO, now that i see you are healthy(er) and happy(er) i am reminded of when you werent so happy, and wonder, is that what people want? for you to be stuck in a rut in a place you dont want to be, unhappy with things but not stupid enough to let on to the general public that you have problems JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE?
I am so fucking happy with you right now, you are getting better at your craft and better in your life every day (and thats not me sucking up, if you did something retarded i’d be the first person to tell you, this you know LOL) (besides, what could i ‘suck up’ for? street cred? LOL)
If you dont have time to write a long winded reply back dont worry – i just really wanted to tell you how much that sentence stuck with me, even to this day.
xxoo
Oh man was this ever a moment. Born for the lights!
PSst. Pastel will be unwrapping herself like a gift. Boners for Christmas this year much? We will need a couple dudes from the crowd for lapdance purposes too just saying. Sunday Night! Classic Burlesque Christmas. The Elfettes! o_O Come dressed up if you like, elves, snowflakes, angels, scrooge, and so on. We are going to leave all our discarded lingerie on the jager bottle christmas tree lol, Bunny’s idea. She’s dismantling a Santa Hat for the fluff for our pasties for this dance for for for!!!
Red booty shorts, long red satin gloves too and teeny santa hat headbands GAHH!
Fake snow icicles for the stage just for you, just for you. Raymi made you Christmas!
Yay! Great pictures…Im sooo glad you got them! Sexytown!
Raymi, I can’t even tell you how much you inspire me daily. I know I have said this all to you before…but I see you and I see someone that inspires, that pushes the envelope, and that brings together like-minded women to support each other and live their lives in a healthy way, both physically and mentally.
All those other people? Those haters and people who feel the need to judge? They are of a different mind set altogether, an unhealthy, dark one that you can only feel sorry for.
Keep living in the light Raymi Lauren! Believe me when I say that more people love you than not!!
xoxoxox
P.S- you are a babe.
Love the rehearsal video. Who is the Elfette with the short hair? I wish I could find a way to justify the 9 hour drive.
Have a great show.
Great post & photos!
And I’ve said this many times before:
Such a brief comment from Katia and look what it started. It was a thoughtless thing to say. Some people can’t not criticize. We all know them in real life but it’s shittier to encounter them on the internet because the criticism is visible to all and lasts, unlike the stinging, but passing, comment made by some jerk at a party, for example. And because the internet offers anonymity they can show their true colours without anyone finding out that they are ugly on the inside. When you think about it like that it almost makes these people sound like the psycopaths in that they try to pass themselves off as normal people but secretly get off on abusing others.
your hater came to find me at my blog too
thanks to comment moderation
Just filed it under garbage where it belongs.
Wishing like crazy I could be there for your show! Kick some ass! xo
they can secretly get off on abusing others all they want but it wont mend their awful sadness or make me any fatter or “lose” in any shape or form. waste of time, makes them look ugly and feel ugly and just ugly all around, not the type of person i want to be, around, or associated with. There is a reason people like this don’t have friends.
That second e-mail was completely “on”. Agree with it 100%, to the point where this comment is completely redundant.