fil wrote an email defending my honour to cp’s comments made here:
hi cp this is phil, raymi’s boyfriend.
i just read your comment and wanted to make a few points:
- i think the comments in hdw’s blog initially attacked raymi without her having said anything about hdw. i read them earlier and thought that they were cheap, immature and uncalled for, but to each their own. i certainly didn’t see any comments by hdw asking people to cut it out.
- the suggestion that the way raymi’s friends behave on other peoples’ blogs is a reflection on her is just plain wrong for two reasons: 1. of the thousands of hits raymi gets a day, probably a dozen are friends and i can assure you that none of those people are interested in wasting their time arguing with others about who has a better blog; and 2. a blogger, or a writer, or an artist cannot be held accountable for the actions of their readers or listeners or fans [unless they specifically endorse and encourage the actions for which we would hold them accountable] – if that was the case then j.d salinger should be in jail for not telling mark chapman not to shoot anyone. raymi doesn’t tell people what to do and it sure as hell isn’t her job to enforce or even encourage some kind of morality amongst her readers that you deem appropriate.
i am older than your husband and regardless of my being with her, raymi’s writing constantly impresses and entertains me. people who judge writing based on adherence to grammar and ‘appropriate’ topics are disappointingly narrow-sighted.
best,
