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Hi Raymi,
I saw your advice columns and figured I would take a shot on a question. I’ve been dating a girl for 3 months now, things are going well, we have fun together and really hit it off. However, I’m slightly concerned that I’m doing too much of the work in the relationship. I’m constantly the one who is making plans, usually paying for dinner, tickets, events, gifts, etc.
She shows affection (and occasionally splits the bill), but she really hasn’t decided to come out and do anything for me yet. I have expressed to her that I want to avoid being taken advantage of as in past relationships, and she understands and seems pretty genuine, but I want to make sure she somehow gets the hint that we both need to be doing things for each other for it to work.
Don’t get me wrong, sex and everything else is great, I just get the feeling sometimes that she doesn’t think of doing things for me sometimes. I really like this girl so I don’t want to shake things up too bad, but would welcome your advice on this one.
Thanks,
GPT
Boston, MA
Hey GPT, first of all, go red sox. secondly, this slut is totally using you. you’re a chump and should’ve given up ages ago. as soon as the gifts stop rolling in this girl is dunzo, sorry. she simply ain’t feeling you anymore. before you end it try and get a big ole fight in there where you’re yelling at 3 in the morning and your hair is standing up cos you’re so stressed and she’s all why baby whyyyyy and you’re like YOU ARE DEAD TO ME TARA. fun.
good luck next time, doormat.
