I just discovered your web site today. I was wondering what you thought about my little problem.
I am almost 22 and my boyfriend is 23. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months. He has a lot of great qualities: he’s handsome, generally he has a positive attitude, he makes me laugh, he wants to spend time with me, we have loads of fun when we go out, his family and friends all adore me. In fact I have never been with a guy who’s family and friends have accepted me the way these people do.
It has been along time since I have felt this much for another person. He has told me that I broke down all the walls he had built up around his heart and that he loves me and cares about me very much. He has said that he wants to be with me for the rest of our lives so we can make each other happy and have fun and stay young. He said I am the only girl he has ever been with that he can see himself growing old with.
But I have a few problems with him though….. I know that he is insecure with certain aspects of himself (who doesn’t right?) So to compensate for this he is over confident and ends up driving me away…. it can be a big turn off.
Secondly, he has this talent for saying the worst possible thing and the worst possible time. He is Sarcastic and rude. For example, Last night we went out to dinner with my 17 year old cousin (we’re pretty close). This was the first time that he was to meet her. We were eating appetizers and my cousin started talking about her sex life. To make a long story short, my boyfriend says, point blank, that he is “way better in bed” than I am.
It just crushed me. He has a sarcastic sense of humor, I know this, but sometimes he takes it so far that it would hurt less if he just punched me in the face. Most times when we go out he will say at least one thing that really cuts me down. The worst part is he does it in front of his friends, and now my family. After we took her home he wanted to go back to his house, but I refused. I told him how he makes me feel when he says things that cut me down. He told me that he was sorry and that he was new at “all of this” (relationships) and that he loves me and cares about me.
But this isn’t the first time that we have fought about this. I know i deserve to be treated better. I deserve a straight answer to my questions: Why do you think it’s funny to put me down? Why don’t you stand up for me? why do you let your friends talk down to me? If I hear anyone saying something to cut him down, I stand up for him. But he won’t stand up for me. It’s not that I don’t mind standing up for myself, i always have, but every other boyfriend I have had would punch out another guy who was putting me down. What the heck do I do?
Is this relationship worth saving? Should I just cut my losses now? Please help RAYMI!!!! Thanks for reading my email. I hope to get an answer soon! Keep up the great work and best wishes for the future!
~ Sleepless in Canada
Hi Sleepless, wow that was really long, you could’ve just got to the point and said my boyfriend is an insecure fucking asshole who uses me as his whipping boy to look better in front of his piece of shit friends.
this relationship is NOT worth saving, your boyfriend thinks his behavior is acceptible. he refuses to stop and it’s so bad even his friends are doing it.
if you really want to save it the only way would be to mock him publicly and do everything he does to you but worse. however, that doesn’t sound like a healthy and happy relationship to me or anyone.
he seems to be one of those i want you to treat me like shit type guys and he’s pushing and pushing you to return the treatment, it’s the only way he can be satiated that yes, he is worthless and lacks confidence, whatever, he’s a fucker. move on. he is emotionally unstable and 23 for crying out loud! date someone older who treats you better.
ps. he said the i see us growing old together line which is only a ploy to get you to stick around longer and all bitches fall for it.
and this blog is not my only legacy. people seem to think because this person has a journal that is viewable online that their whole damn life is in it and so they think that is all you are like i’m sorry i leave out the shit about me not being a useless moron you’re obviously smart enough to conclude that on yer lonesome.
so i have this interview thing at 1 o’clock and i just finished hanging out with the cat in the backyard smoked a joint and put polysporin on the burn between my tits from a cig last nite. fuck! that fucking show buzz is awesome sucks to you americans that don’t get to see it. darryn and mo .com or some shit. im going to email the webmasterbater again.
i don’t even have a resume for this thing thang today pshhhh. i don’t know what i’m going to say or what i am going to wear
and i need to shower.
i threw a football a lot yesterday and the day before but then i was not allowed to kuz i kicked it way up in the air and it almost bonked into the cars in the driveway and then i threw a tennis ball at kat’s head by mistake. too bad it didn’t hit jay.
and finally hockey is over. like it was getting a bit ridiculous there, come on. at least it’s not baseball.
sorry never-ending innings of lame.
speaking of baseball and lame i saw the asshole the other day in front of that hipster cowgirl so tres modern bullshit of a place on queen and he’s like yerr i KNEW i would bump into you. i thought the same thing.
me and the asshole use to hang out when we were cool but now he works for lions gate films and hangs out with adult people well really i have no fucking clue what he is doing because his blog is the epitome of no new gossip. so whatever fuckwipe, email me already. my fone is shut off.
even tho we hate baseball i wanna go again and fall down all of the stairs after 11 dollar plastic pails of beer.
if you have a question email it to raymitheminx@gmail.com don’t be a smart ass either well if you want to fine but i will only tear you to shreds ten times more.
Hey, there is this chick I broke up when I cheated on her…. and now I moved (but not that far away) and she hasn’t been talking to me (she has a new boyfriend) …. I want her back in my life though!
Either as a girlfriend or just to talk to her again… help me out…with some romantic ways… Thank You, AB
Hey AB, uh you’re kidding? you’re kidding right? ha ha funny joke AB you’re a funny guy. excuse me a moment i gotta open the window, let some of the crazy out…
ok i’m back, wait, nope, still crazy in here.
anyway dude, you didn’t mention that you came clean about the fucking around so i’m guessing you got busted therefore you only want her back in yer life cos you think you can still hit it. buddy, she has MOVED ON and clearly does not want ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU, you want me to “help you out…with some romantic ways” ? how about putting that thought and effort into another woman whom you won’t cheat on you idiot.
i bet you have this fantasy in your head that you can win her back from the new guy and then there’s this dramatic parking lot fistfight and she’s like JOHNNY NOOooo and then rushes to your side and you punch this guy’s face until it’s like bloody pulp and you punch your chest going WHO DA MAN WHO DA MAN RAH RAH RAH FUCK OFF GUY SHE’S MIIINE! whatever, you are a DOUCHE and you should move further the fuck away from her and get her out of your mind. she’s not talking to you because you FUCKED UP by CHEATING ON HER.
i think for you i will do a special favor and design a t-shirt with that last sentence written backwards so when you wear it and you look in the mirror you can read it. you’re welcome.
yesterday paige and i drank wine and watched us some canada’s next top bla bla then hit a patio and met up with fil and samir. i was taking photos of my nipple through this flyer with a hole cut in it and this fag walks by as he’s leaving and exclaims THAT’S DISGUSTING!!!! feh. dude this is a female nipple it FED YOU WHEN YOU WERE FUCKING BORN IT KEPT YOU ALIIIIVE AS GAY AS YOU CLAIM TO BE YOU CANNOT EVER DENY THE FACT THAT YOU SUCKED A BITCH’S TIT BEFORE!
