have done/could do
Hello bros.
Today is a big day for Lord Raymington. You ever get that feeling on the eve of something super scandalous you’re about to do, like nausea and anxiety at the prospect of the ensuing negative reaction. I had a similar feeling when I did MTV Creeps. I knew they were going to be ruthless with me and they were fucking ASSHOLES but I did it anyway. They seem to repeat my episodes often too. Which is contemptuous, but also thoughtful of them. Whenever I do crazier things over here, they start showing them over there and all my Little Raymis start blipping up and then new, younger people start adding my mom and I to Facebook it gets pretty nuts. But that is the magic and power of MTV. Do not fuck with MTV.
Anyway.
Two things. I know I’m about to be slut-shamed. And it’s going to be a big pile of bullshit because there’s this quasi-love your body (positive) movement happening right now, the cover of NOW magazine has two naked chicks on it.
And yes they’re big ladies. Bold and beautiful. But I seem to get treated with the opposite amount of respect and always fucking have when I take my clothes off. Skinny girls. Sorry, skinnier than me even girls, none of this body love ever gets directed at them or us. And when WE (want to) make bold nude moves, we get slammed for it.
So this blog post is just a wee head’s up warning that I hope you don’t fall into that heaping snarky pile of garbage because 1. I won’t care about what people say or think of me anymore, you have had long enough to be my friend and be nice to me, you’re in my past as far as I am concerned if you hurt, diss or ever attack me. 2. Be proud of who you are, be true to yourself, be yourself and just go for it. Don’t be afraid. Don’t worry about fucking up a future that hasn’t occurred yet.
A good friend of mine reminded me of my IF NOT NOW WHEN thing.
So I am doing NOW.
I’m not going to sit around waiting for Hollywood to call me anymore.
For too long I have worried about what people will say. And a lot will say shitty things. A lot will defend me and have my back and shockingly already have. I have a VIP ring of people I let in on my gossip-news etc before everybody else because everybody else slags on me. It’s a cut throat scene and we all want to dominate.
Obviously toot your own horn when the time calls for it but keep some cards to your chest and be humble, because at the end of the day you could be wrong.
Now the second thing I shard on FB. I’ve been leaving bread crumbs and clues around, provoking a little bit maybe. Women Are Posing Naked To Reclaim Their Bodies – If you chimed in on this Buzzfeed piece something supportive and yet trash me for living out my Nicki Minaj Kardashian complex in the same breath, you’re a chode. Just saying.
xoxo yours forever Raymi the Minx
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Now here’s my #TBT submit.
hahahaha chode! I miss that word. I support and love every word you write, every photo you post and every new adventure you embark upon. Keep on truckin, Beautiful Foxy Smartypants! Love you muchly xoxoxo
Cool post
I really love your attitude and realness, definitely contagious! You got it right, keep doing your thing, haters gonna hate (but why not congratulate?) So, congrats on being ‘you’ 
I fucking love you girls
can’t wait! excited for you! keep going for it. love seeing you do what you do. <3
Love the David Hamilton mysterioso haze vibe in the video.
Good luck -I know you’ll nail it!
Fuck all them haters, bro. You’re hot shit.
How hard was it not to just keep repeating fuck you to the MTV creeps? The blonde chick who had it out for you, she crushes on you, I can tell.
That’s not the point, the point is, at least you are out there trying stuff and then doing different stuff and not stopping stuff. GOOD FOR YOU! Carry on.
they were speaking in her ear to egg her on. we are friends/peers irl. that could have gone a lot worse haha.
I think you should show your body however you want to. It’s my hope that, maybe if we see enough bodies that are not dieted, airbrushed and photoshopped into generic perfection, showing one’s body won’t be a big fucking deal.
Regarding your point that thin girls get hate and slut-shaming when they show their bodies, while larger women are lauded as courageous, I’d like to think about the difference in intention between these two acts. Thin, attractive women who are posting their nudes for an audience are usually offering themselves as a sexual object. It’s about validating they’re hot, and offering themselves as an image of sexuality. Overweight women who pose nude for publication aren’t after that most of the time; they’re after the acknowledgement that there are fat people in the world, and they shouldn’t be forced to hide under a rock until they achieve an acceptable weight to appear in public. Sometimes they are also presenting themselves as sexy (Beth Ditto’s photos from a few years ago come to mind), but this is still very unconventional in the mainstream media, outside of fetish sites. When thin women post nudes, the expectation is that people will praise them for being hot and thin, and people may lash out at them for various, usually misogynistic reasons to counter this. “You’re not hot enough” is one tactic, ie. you’re not my idea of perfection, so I’m not buying what you’re selling; you’re not all that my expectations are more important than your self-esteem. (This is what I like to call the entitled Bro reaction). Some might want to take the hot woman down a peg or two because of jealousy or because an insecure person is easier to manipulate, or to feel superior to. Some might project that the woman posing nude is a “slut” and they are “too good” to objectify themselves in this way, thus feeling superior to them. The divide, most of the time, between the two types of nudes are, “I deserve to exist” (for overweight women) vs “I want to be validated as sexy” (for conventionally hot women).
Sure, there are the “My nudes are not sexy, they are art,” and the “big women are sexy” exceptions, but in discussing the mainstream media, these are ideas from niche cultures, not mainstream messages.
Is it messed up that a women’s nudity seems inherently loaded with messages? Hell, yes. Remember, also a couple of years ago, those ads with David Beckham slo-mo running down a street in his underwear? He got so much flak for supposedly demeaning himself by doing this; he is a “serious athlete” who shouldn’t have to objectify his body, said some. Me? I’m pro David Beckham slo-mo running, and for everyone feeling comfortable being a sexy nude person, or just a nude person with no hint of sexiness, as they wish.
TL;DR, we should all just hang out on a beach in France where no one gives a fuck about nudity until we are more comfortable with ourselves.
I don’t come round as often as I used to but I’m always here, always reading. Shine bright, you’re a star and I mean that in the most cool down to earth vibe ever. Lots of luv xo.
women should be allowed to have it all. show nudity. work kick ass office job. be a mother. A nurse. The women I met today inspired me. I’m motivated and inspired.
I’m so happy to see what’s happening in your life these past few days and I support you 100%, all the way. You are so much more Fearless in a way that I wish I could be and nobody should be ashamed to put themselves out there the way you do.. that’s why I adore you so much!
They’re all jealous little turds who wish they were as wonderful and beautiful as you, slinging mud from behind a keyboard. If they don’t like what you’re doing/showing, then they can look the other way and live their sorrowful lives while you blossom and shine. Fuck the haters.
I’m so proud of you. ♥♥♥
I’ve been reading here for eleventy billion years, and met you about half that long ago with my sister, we went to the beach. One of the first things you said to me was that I was skinnier than you, and that you were jealous. One of the first things I thought was… I’m sure she has a pretty good idea how I’ve accomplished that. I felt pretty *good* about that, which was total penis-nosed crap, though I can’t find the pic (thank mr skeltal). I have issues, we all have issues. I’m naked on the internet, you’ve been naked on the internet, I dunno what you have up your sleeve coming up, but no one’s body is wrong, even though we’re all still within rights to judge ourselves, dammit. I haven’t commented here since I forget, and haven’t paid full attention always after that beach. Still on your side forever for whatever :* Bit drunk now so I will STAHP. Unsure of sense-making.
I love the legs/feet/shoes picture, it makes my heart do funny things…
Candice, at that time I was dieting like mental and bodies were all I could think about coupled by my blog life and being talked about under a microscope. All I meant was I wanted to have your body as my own. I now know there is more to life than a perfect body but not really ;).
Raymi RAWKS!!!
I don’t mind if you show off your body.
takeitasred pretty much summed up what I wanted to say, totally agree with your post. I don’t think it’s fair to compare the two. Raymi from what I have seen of your pics you have the kind of beautiful body that is revered by media & society and drooled over by most men. On the other hand the ladies on the cover of NOW(and myself because I have been anywhere from size 14to 24) have been called disgusting,slobs and openly degraded & criticized and have been considered inferior because of our bodies. What is sounds like you are talking about is people thinking it’s narcissistic to post naked photos everyday or whatever(not that I agree, people can do whatever they want) but I don’t think the “fat acceptance movement” should be lumped into the same category because the two issues are different.
I was just using NOW’s body love movement as a shield to help defend myself of my self body fixation when really I shouldnt be defending anything period, but just doing.
It just blows when you can hear the clucks and tuts in people’s minds before you even make a move to show the racy thing or do the brazen what have you.
People just obsess over me because I obsess over me and I am relentlessly driven.
I posted a butt pic the other day on Facebook and so much drama came of it. It’s MY ass yet so many people have to weigh in and cause drama about it. Which is why I delayed a day before posting the same picture which seemed completely fine to post on instagram/twitter/tumblr but sure enough facebook takes the cake.
And it’s this Facebook generation who cannot deal – those who rely on Facebook for every thought, update and life notification. People who feel the need to run to my brother and mother about it when this is 15 years later from day one of my blog transformation/life journey’s beginning and being fine with posting what I post.
I am not going to change and I am not going to stop drawing parallels to things that are also unjust, or double standard.
The only thing you can control in this world is your own life. The rest is just trolling on the internet.
Well Raym’s,
Proud that you don’t care what others think. It is an important trait to have.
Sad that those ladies on Now (Body Love Issue) are being attacked. It takes a lot of guts to pose nude. People don’t have perfect bodies. We all come in different sizes, and no one should feel bad because they aren’t the “ideal cultural media form.”
Proud that you’re exercising and in shape Dad. I need a jogging pal, for when I start running again. So sign me up.
To make a long story short, I find it laughable that some assholes out there are making fun of people for posing nude because they don’t fit inside of these high horse people’s paradigm. Also, very hypocritical of these folks. As I bet someone in their family aren’t in their ideal form that causes so much hate, for them to spew hateful remarks.
To conclude, don’t make people feel like shit because they don’t look how you want them to. Sure you might not be into someone with more weight or less weight or whatever the fuck the case is. Learn how to not be an asshole, and keep your remarks to yourself. This coming from a grade A “asshole.”
Anyhow, that’s my rant.
Keep on rocking in the somewhat free world.
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Love you 4EVR James!!!!!! lets go running once it warms up. Raymboat does not do cold.
also I didnt know they were being hated on where!?!?