Comments on: free shitty advice day

By: steph

steph — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 00:39:09 +0000

thank you for this, we love you rayms

By: bronwyn

bronwyn — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 05:15:24 +0000

This post was so well written and timed.
Had to come out of hiding to say so aswell.
Still reading…

By: takeitasred

takeitasred — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 04:07:12 +0000

I think this is really good advice. I myself realize I’ve dealt with this by becoming a commitmentphobe. Therefore I don’t freak out over the thought of my current boyfriend cheating, ’cause if he did, I’d leave (even if I would rant in a horribly emo fashion about heartbreak and my lost soulmate and all that), but I DO freak out when I commit to anything at all about the relationship and don’t get reciprocal commitment.

Also, I’m going to sound like someone’s mom, but relationships are not entirely founded on looks alone – it’s possible to love someone based on your mutual interests. I mean, any bimbo can slut around your boyfriend in a bar, but only you can sing along to the entire oeuvre of Simon and Garfunkel with him, draft drawings in CAD to help get his project done, spend entire days shooting film together….basically, fill in your relationship mad libs here. Someone can always be hotter than you, but only you can enjoy being yourself around your partner.

By: liz

liz — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 01:19:02 +0000

Good thing you have a cool mother.

By: raymi

raymi — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:52:17 +0000

don’t ever put up with men’s bullshit. omg i am turning into my fucking mother.

By: celeri

celeri — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:50:58 +0000

“fuck him HE should be the one trying to woo you over again and again”

Too right Raymi, too right. I need to get this into my brain! You’re brilliant.

By: raymismom

raymismom — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:00:40 +0000

just call me

Dear Mom

or Dear Raymismom

k I’m leaving now

By: Gage

Gage — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:59:55 +0000

haha I love that your mom comments on here. If my mom commented on my blog it would be to say something like “stop being stupid” or “why are you wasting your time on this?” or “you should take those pictures down, what is wrong with you…”

By: raymi

raymi — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:42:28 +0000

elaborate ryan. mom you’ve said enough jeez!

By: Ryan

Ryan — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:39:25 +0000

Feels like I relate to what Raymi is going through.
The advice feels like exactly what I’ve learned except reverse the guy/girl roles.
Love this