Momma: She has been dancing for years and feels she should guide everyone and nurture them. Not on drugs, maybe drinks too much, is proud of her body and her profession and tries to make all of the dancers proud of their professions. The one who is called when all of the other dancers are in trouble.

The bitch: Older like the Momma but resents the younger dancers and attempts to make their lives miserable. She is hated by the Momma.

The whore: She wants to make as much money as she can even if it means having sex with the customers.

Druggie: Needs to get her fix so that she can get high. Momma is usually getting her out of some kind of trouble.
The teaser: Loves getting men aroused. She plays the men in the club really well and you would never know that she is a dancer outside of the club.

The Lesbian: She prefers women but she dances for men. She likes getting them horny but would never have sex with them. Two of the dancers were lesbians and a couple.

The Naïve baby: She was into dancing because she could make money. The spot was a safe place to dance nude and not have to give lap dances or ever be touched. She did not know what she wanted in life. She was usually from a small town or somewhere in West Virginia. Several naïve babies came through that summer and only one stayed. She is now a Momma.

The abused one: She claimed she danced because she was sexually abused. She hated what she was doing but kept on dancing.

The professional: She is a dancer and very good at it, perhaps dances in other venues, enjoys her job and loves having fun. She treats the men well and she is treated like a goddess. Momma was a professional but because of her age everyone called her Momma.

The Madonna: She walked into the place and became the favorite dancer. She came out of nowhere, did not tell anyone about her background, did not seem to have a family, she just danced so well that all the men loved her. The Momma gave my friend the name.

The Momma really loved my friend, even knew what she was up too after my friend got drunk with the Momma and told her the secret, and they still keep in touch. Momma is now the manager of the place, no longer dances, but still loves her job and dancing.

When the summer ended, my friend went back to her normal life and we keep in touch. She has never been back to a dance club.

“like one time i let a girlfriend of mine blow an ex bf right in front of me, i let that same chick do it to two different guys on separate occasions actually, and i could see in both the guy’s stupid faces how lucky they felt and happy and were completely elated WOW hit the fucking lottery here this must mean something. yes it does mean something and that being i’m beyond over you and this is how i’m letting you down easy with a beej from my whore friend. pretty generous if you ask me. (it’s a sneaky dirty trick you can bring up later on when the guy is sobbing and saying nasty desperate things you just passive aggressively remind him that he got blown by your friend in front of you so who’s the one who cares about whom now?)”

-America

from my personal experience, that initial anger, when not properly dealt with, transcends all of that bundled up energy into different parts of your core, one of them being sexual. what you are angry about can turn you on, but thats just because all of that energy stimulated you and awakened your senses. this is the same thing as make up/break up sex or someone watching violent pornography.

there are various ways to tap into your hormonal surge but that doesn’t make all of them healthy. imagine being reliant on being angry with your man to turn you on, i cant imagine how grossly unstable that relationship would be.

i think if you, raymi, stripped for a room full of men, to compensate for phil deciding to go to a strip club. then you would still spend months being cold and upset over what he did. because you have stated your opinions and feelings about it to such an extent, that had he still decided to go, you would feel betrayed and angry that he even brought you to the point of having to compensate for what he did.

i am really glad that you mentioned the regulations of women needing to be escorted by men into strip clubs, because i was told it was because the club was trying to keep women safe from the type of men that go in there, and i am glad that i now know the real justification behind it. i want to barf.

elizabeth i do not appreciate the tone of this statement at all and i feel you have overlooked many of my points. marriage doesn’t mean you stop caring what the other one does (for many it does though and that’s shitty) and if i didn’t care about the person, why would i marry them and let them go to a strip club? depressing.

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